I know. It  sounds well-intended and even wise to just be yourself (be authentically you, right...?) , but if "yourself" is uninteresting, socially awkward, insecure and prejudiced, then being yourself will leave you isolated, self-loathing and struggling both emotionally and financially. Unless you want those outcomes, I highly recommend that you do not be yourself. Here's the truth: Your personality is not actually you. It's who you've been conditioned to act like based on what you've...